Father Vs Dad - how to be a great dad, not just a father

You might have heard, in an off-handed fashion or as a joke

“Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.” – Anne Gettes

But, there is much more to it. Young parents today understand it more than anyone else, “Papa” is someone approachable, who cares and is present. It speaks of a stronger bond, laughter, affection, and good memories. He is someone with whom you have a deeper relationship. While “father” just indicates a biological bond, which is stoic and authoritative.

So semantics of the word aside, let's journey from being a father to a dad and along the way share some tips to have a relationship that your child cherishes forever.

Be an active parent

Take a more active interest in your child’s life. Dad, move away from being only the "breadwinner" to being involved in caregiving, nurturing, and spending quality time with your child(ren). This shift challenges traditional gender roles and promotes a more equal and balanced approach to parenting.

Don’t be afraid of forming an Emotional bond 

Dad, openly express love, affection, and support; break the stereotype of the stoic and emotionally distant father figure. Modern fathers today take pride in being  more emotionally involved with their child(ren). This emotional connection positively influences the well-being and development of your child(ren).

Truly Co-parent and not ‘help’ to raise the child

Actively engage in co-parenting with your partner, make decisions together, and share responsibilities. This collaborative approach fosters a strong family bond and allows the child(ren) to benefit from the perspectives and strengths of both parents.

Communication

Encourage and support your child’s individual interests and passions, and aim to raise well-rounded, self-confident children who can pursue their dreams freely. This means show interest in their lives, and talk to them to know who they are, what their interests are rather than who you want them to be.

More and more dads today want to develop an everlasting relationship with their child, through connection, guidance, and love. They are  dedicated to being present, caring, and engaged. Dads are present at school events, dads are present at play dates, dads are working on college applications, dads are mentoring, dads are cooking for their families and much more. If you are a “Dad, time is now a factor of your own innate desire to be present and know your child(ren). 

We asked some children as well what a “Dad” meant to them. Here is what they shared - 

“A dad means someone who tucks me to sleep every night.”

“Who plays punching games and lots of running and jumping.”

“A dad means someone who we can be naughty with and laugh with.”

When dads prioritize their children's well-being, emotional growth, and development it fosters healthy relationships and personal growth for their families.